If you have been trying to conceive for a long time, there is a good chance you have quietly handed the reins to everyone else.
The specialist. The naturopath. The acupuncturist. The shaman. The Facebook group. The protocol. The app that tells you when to try and when to rest and when to feel hopeful.
And slowly, without even realising it was happening, your intuition went quiet.
Your fertility power is not gone. It has just been outsourced. And today I want to show you how to bring it back home to you.
The Moment I Stopped Giving My Power Away
About five years into my eight year journey to bring my son earthside, I went to see a Native American shaman. He came highly recommended. I had paid him a very handsome sum of money. And he looked at me and said words that rocked me to my absolute core.
He said: you will never be a mother in this lifetime.
I went home. I sat in the bathtub. I rocked back and forth and I said to myself over and over again, I will be a mother. I will be a mother.
And something came over me in that moment. A power I had not felt in years. And I made a declaration that changed everything.
I will never give my fertile power away again.
That was the catalyst. That was the moment I reclaimed my fertile energy for myself. And if I had trusted that shaman, or any number of the experts I had seen before him, I would not have my six year old son today.
What Reclaiming Your Fertile Power Actually Looks Like
I want to share a story about a client of mine because reclaiming your power looks different for every woman.
She was on a journey to become a solo mother using a known sperm donor. For twelve months she was flying all around the country through her ovulation windows, burning through money on flights and accommodation, squeezing conception into tiny stressful windows of time.
After a year of this she came to me exhausted and broken open. She said she did not know if she was cut out to be a mother. She did not know if her baby was coming.
I asked her one question. What would feel more expanded?
And she surprised herself with her answer. She had always wanted a natural conception. But what actually felt expansive, what felt like safety, was choosing IVF. Having a controlled environment. Knowing exactly when ovulation would happen and exactly when the embryo would be transferred.
She spoke to her donor. He agreed. She went through one round of IVF and her beautiful baby boy was conceived on the very first try.
She took her power back. And her baby came.
Reclaiming your fertile power does not mean you abandon medicine or ignore experts. It means your inner authority sits above everything else. If an expert says something that makes you feel less than, that drops you into fear, that makes you doubt your body, you do not have to receive that. Take what resonates and leave the rest.
The Shift That Happens Before Pregnancy
One of the biggest things I witness before a woman conceives is this. She stops making her baby the entire centre of her world and she starts coming back to herself.
She starts asking different questions.
What brings me joy? What creates expansion in my life? What flourishes my soul?
Here is why this matters on a physiological and energetic level. Your baby is conceived in your womb. Your womb lives in your sacral chakra. And your sacral chakra is the centre of your creativity and your life force energy.
What makes your sacral chakra vibrant and strong is not more tracking. It is not more supplements. It is not another protocol.
It is doing things you love. Having joy in your life. Making fun a priority.
When you do those things you become magnetic. Your energy becomes the kind of environment a soul wants to land in.
The Healing Cycle That Never Ends
I want to name something that I see over and over again in this community and it is keeping so many women stuck.
When we orient our energy toward being broken, we will always find more things to fix.
The mother wound. The father wound. The relationship pattern. The money blocks. The nervous system dysregulation. The ancestral trauma.
I am not saying these things are not real or that healing is not valuable. But if you go on a quest to fix what is broken, it never ends. Your soul will keep presenting you with more to work on because you have told it that this is what you want.
What I am suggesting is something different entirely.
Surrender it all.
You are not broken. You have never been broken. You are whole and perfect exactly as you are. And your baby does not need a perfectly healed mother. Your baby needs a magnetic one.
The Van Story
I am a surfer. For years I wanted to buy a van so I could throw my board in the back and go on adventures. But I kept telling myself it was not practical. Not until the baby comes. Not until life looks different.
Eventually I said, stuff it. I am not pregnant and I want to go surfing. I bought the van.
One month later I conceived my son.
I am not saying buy a van and you will get pregnant. I am saying that when I stopped contracting around what I did not yet have and started expanding into the life I was actually living, everything shifted.
Your baby wants to come into an expanded life. Not a life that has been put on hold waiting for them.
Alignment Is Not Vague. It Is Practical.
Most women already know what is out of alignment. They just have not been willing to look at it yet.
Are you in a job that feels good to your soul? Are you in a relationship that feels safe and supportive? Do you have enough financial security to feel at ease in your body?
These questions are not meant to create fear. What alignment looks like is completely different for every woman. For some, living simply with very little money is pure expansion. For others, having a financial cushion is what allows their nervous system to relax.
Only you know the answer for you.
When I was on my fertility journey and someone asked me if anything was preventing me from conceiving, I would say no. But I knew. Deep down I knew I was working in a job that was completely out of alignment with my soul. I was in denial. But I knew.
There may be something in your life right now that is coming up for review. Something your baby is asking you to shift that you have not yet been willing to shift. It might be as simple as putting down the ovulation sticks for a couple of months. Stopping the timed sex. Letting go of the basal temperature charts.
Not because those things are wrong. But because if they feel like a chore, your soul is already asking you to make a different choice.
Here is the simplest filter I know for your entire fertility journey.
Does this feel good to me?
If the answer is yes, keep going. If the answer is no, your soul is asking you to try something different.
Are you willing to make a different choice to meet your baby?
Coming Home to Your Fertile Power
Your intuition has not left you. It has just been talked over by everyone else’s opinions about your body and your journey.
When you start listening to it again, something remarkable happens. Your body begins to feel safe. And when your body feels safe, it sends you signals and messages you can actually act on. It becomes a partner in this journey rather than a problem to be managed.
Your fertile power was always yours. It is time to bring it back home.
If you are ready to stop outsourcing and start listening, your spirit baby is already trying to reach you.
Download the free Spirit Baby Meditation and begin receiving the messages your baby has been waiting to share with you.
